Dear Sapphire Welka, https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/53adub/i_cant_stand_our_cultures_obsession_with/ We all accept that, logically, bad people are capable of having children; and therefore, bad people are capable of becoming bad parents. And yet when a child criticizes their parent for being a bad one, what do we tell them? "Show some respect for your elders!" "She's your mom, you only get one." "Whatever they did, you should forgive them. Life is short, you'll regret not making up with them when they die." "He loves you, he just doesn't know how to show it." "They didn't have to [feed you/let you live there/buy you Christmas presents/clothe you/give birth to you/provide you with basic necessities]! You're living under their roof, after all - you need to show more respect for their authority!" "You should apologize to them. You're the child, it's disrespectful to talk back to your parents like that." These beliefs are incredibly toxic and harmful, ... Be strong! Respect yourself! Sincerely, Jason Khanlar