Dear Sapphire Welka, https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/2ml0qd/my_badass_friend/ Don't let your mother bully you and indoctrinate you into a fantasy life where your dreams, goals are silenced and replaced with her own, or in the case of others in your family and friends doing the same, that they punish you if you do not meed their expectations, and gaslight and manipulate you to be someone that you are not. Be strong. Respect yourself. Have a voice. Reality does indeed matter. Sapphire Welka's opinion matters. Sapphire Welka can prove it, with dignity, integrity, confidence, courage, bravery, etc. Sincerely, Jason Khanlar